When helping someone with Cancer, certain things can either make someone's day or make them feel a little bit worse. I surveyed over 100 people, and these were some of their suggestions for Do’s and Don’ts for interacting with a loved one who has cancer.
Do's
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Visit them
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Do something helpful without them asking
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Listen, allow them to lead the conversation
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Be there for them. Sometimes just being present is enough
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Allow them to feel their emotions
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Help take care of children/pets
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Support the caregiver
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Call them, text them, reach out
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Continue to try and include them
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Be understanding when they cancel
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Instead of “let me know if you need anything,” offer to help with something specific.
Don'ts
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Ignore/overlook the family and friends
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Comment on living spaces
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“Your cancer is too stressful for me.”
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“It's going to be okay.”
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Telling them stories of loved ones dying from cancer
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Share their diagnosis before they can
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Ignore the cancer patient
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It's God's will.”
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“Everything happens for a reason.”
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“Be thankful for the time you have with them.”
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Act like you know everything about their situation
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Judge them for how they're feeling
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Tell them they HAVE to do treatment
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“It could be worse.”
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“Have you tried to pray?”
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Make everything about the cancer; sometimes, they need a break from the cancer.
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Wait for them to reach out.